cum eating

A paradoxical outcome of ´70s feminism is that today´s young women exult in their seductive power even though the seduction is often not reciprocal. Mimicking male bravado, some of my young female patients now regard “giving good blowjobs” as an accomplishment, an end in itself, yet they are really boasting about what they “give,” while males have historically bragged about what they “got”-the power differential still holds. In a misguided attempt to appear liberated, I believe many young women are allowing themselves to be exploited this way, participating in sex that is unilateral, usually in service of the male´s cum eating orgasm. In effect, they are doing what desperate women have always done-using their sexuality to lure a man into a relationship while deluding themselves into thinking otherwise-that, for example, they are doing it for the thrill. But the thrill of what?

Of course, sexual expression has always been a kind of “Rashomon,” a social and subjective construction. Its meaning is perpetually slippery, varying from person to person, culture to culture, historical period to historic period-not to mention from moment to moment during the act itself. To be sure, I am not arguing against young people engaging in oral sex, cum eating but I wonder if they understand their own and their partners´ motives.

I began my research by telephoning the busiest cocksucker I know: Trebor Healy, a gay poet who has praised slurping in paeans such as “Dick Prayer,” “The Big Cock Candy Mountain” and “The Star-Spangled Boner.” Trebor informed me that “organic vegetarians taste the best, and those who drink plenty of liquids put out a better consistency; the dehydrated lad can get a bit thick. Also, a man whose mouth tastes good will always have delicious cum, while a foul kiss leads to less-than-fabulous cumshots.”

Trebor´s report cum eating depressed me, because