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To male boomers, the practice of oral sex involves the reduction of a woman into a desiring body (or, more accurately, a body part) available for servicing them. The word “score,” of course, speaks volumes. As illustrated in Woody Allen´s recent movie “Celebrity,” in which access to blow jobs was portrayed as one of the perks of being an alpha male, unilateral oral sex is a power trip for middle-aged men. Swallowing is the ultimate victory. Even President Clinton must have understood this, for in an uncharacteristic gesture of gentlemanly concern, he resisted using Monica Lewinsky in this eating cum manner. His consideration turned out to be gratuitous, however, for Lewinsky has said that, far from feeling used, she regarded it as a measure of his trust. Therein lies the generation gap.

The view of my middle-aged women patients is consistent with that of their male peers. Veterans of the ´60s sexual revolution, these women might well have engaged in casual sexual intercourse in their youth, but they tended to reserve oral sex for a relationship in which they felt safe. To most of them, fellatio was somehow more serious than intercourse. It was a privilege of intimacy. A eating cum loving, enduring relationship would allow these women to find pleasure in a range of activities that might shame them otherwise. In “giving blowjobs,” a woman assumes a subordinate position (sometimes literally down on her hands and knees) -- it was understood that she was performing this act in service of her passion for a man and that no decent man would exploit her. Moreover, he should be willing to return the favor in kind.

To male boomers, the practice of oral sex involves the reduction of a woman into a desiring body (or, more accurately, a body part) available eating cum for servicing them.