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So the Clinton-Lewinsky convergence of bodies was actually a cultural collide, with each side of the generation gap bringing to the act its own set of assumptions. To parents´ horror, the gap may be expanding to a chasm as the behavior of young women and men seems to be trickling down to the preteen set. Recently the Washington Post reported that a growing number of middle-schoolers are engaging in oral sex in an effort to avoid pregnancy and AIDS, to hang on to their virginity and to become popular. Pressed by her parents about the significance of doing so, facial cumshots one girl quoted in the article shrugs, “What´s the big deal? President Clinton did it.”

A paradoxical outcome of ´70s feminism is that today´s young women exult in their seductive power even though the seduction is often not reciprocal. Mimicking male bravado, some of my young female patients now regard “giving good blowjobs” as an accomplishment, an end in itself, yet they are really boasting about what they “give,” while males have historically bragged about what they “got”-the power differential still holds. In a misguided attempt to appear liberated, I believe many young women are allowing themselves to be facial cumshots exploited this way, participating in sex that is unilateral, usually in service of the male´s orgasm. In effect, they are doing what desperate women have always done-using their sexuality to lure a man into a relationship while deluding themselves into thinking otherwise-that, for example, they are doing it for the thrill. But the thrill of what?

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